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4 reasons we were able to love an abusive partner (...how to not feel regret)
Four key ideas that shed light on why we feel love towards an abusive partner: addiction to the drama cycle, grooming, love bombing, and gas
Craig Newman
6 min read


What to do when our abusive relationship is coming from a parent / sibling
Advice for adults coping with adult relatives (parents or siblings), who are abusive.
Craig Newman
6 min read


"My ex is a narcissist!" The hazards of investing too heavily, in a habit of validation.
Discover healing after abuse by shifting focus from the abuser to self-growth and resilience in this empowering guide to recovery.
Craig Newman
4 min read


Understanding the Emotional Effects of Leaving an Abuser
Understanding the emotional effect of leaving an abuser and the urge to make contact or to go back
Craig Newman
4 min read


Rescue Planning: Beating the urge to contact your abusive ex.
Planning to support yourself, when avoiding contacting an ex, after domestic abuse.
Craig Newman
3 min read


A Psychologist wakes up to the realisation that she had experienced domestic abuse.
A case example of a Clinical Psychologist, who came to realise her past relationship was abusive.
Craig Newman
3 min read


Negging, the hurtful slights abusive partners can slip into conversation.
Negative comments used by abusers to manipualte and control.
Craig Newman
4 min read


When I Realised That Being Told "I Hate You" Is Probably Abuse
How to notice if emotional abuse is in your relationship and what to do next.
Craig Newman
3 min read


Tips and strategies for Abused Men & Women facing courtroom battles.
Finding Strength and Taking Back Control in the Pursuit of Justice & Freedom The courtroom experience, for domestic abuse victims, is awful. It can be a place for further abuse and invalidation – where victims can feel blamed and unheard, an extension of the abuse they experienced in the relationship. The reality is that all sexes can be victims - and their experience of court can and likely will be effected by their sex (sorry to say, but it seems the case). This said, for
Craig Newman
7 min read


Navigating a Broken System: Support and Hope for Domestic Abuse Survivors Facing Court Battles
Empowering Victims and Advocating for Change in the Legal Process (Part II 'Tips and strategies for Abused Women facing courtroom battles' is here) As a survivor of domestic abuse, you may feel alone, overwhelmed, and even frightened when facing the court system (divorce, CAFCASS, child arrangement orders etc). We understand the challenges you're going through, and we're here to tell you that there are people and organisations working tirelessly to make the system safer and
Craig Newman
2 min read


Why Can't I Stop Thinking About or Contacting My Abusive Ex?
Essential reading for those escaping a toxic or abusive ex.
Craig Newman
4 min read


Red Flags: How to Recognise a Toxic Co-Parenting Relationship
Essential reading for those escaping a toxic or abusive ex.
Craig Newman
4 min read


Are you trapped? How to Spot Coercive Control and Break Free
Self-assessment for coercive control and signposting what to do next.
Craig Newman
3 min read


What is coercive control & what to do if you have / are experiencing it.
Understanding what coercive control means and how to recover from it.
Craig Newman
5 min read


How the renurture Programme aims to reduce Adverse-Childhood Experiences (ACES) outcomes.
Discover how the renurture Programme reduces ACES outcomes by supporting parents post-domestic abuse. Learn how ACES impacts can be minimized.
Craig Newman
3 min read


What are Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES)?
Discover how the renurture Programme reduces ACES outcomes by supporting parents post-domestic abuse. Learn how ACES impacts can be minimized.
Craig Newman
3 min read


The Consequences of Gaslighting - Understanding its hidden Impact
What is gaslighting and what do you need if you experienced it?
Craig Newman
4 min read
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