Question 1

What benefits will I see?

Accepted Answer

Changes you may experience:

• Get Closure on your ex.  No pull back to them and no thinking about them, as you move forwards in life.
 • Feel a powerful and increased awareness of your own needs and a desire to meet them.
 • Feel a less desperate need to be loved by someone, and more of a realisation that you can add this to your life when you want to and it is right.
 • Stop attacks on yourself (less criticism, self blame, regret, guilt, shame...)
 • Notice yourself being less rescuing of others, unless you choose to be!
 • Start feeling like a survivor not a victim : a person who is empowered and free.
 • Generate a real sense of why you are valuable, and feel it daily!
 • Build a desire to carry on working on yourself as you feel the effect and want more of it!

These all become constants and you grow trust in yourself.. and eventually with a new lover.

This is the completed journey of getting love - to source it from yourself and then to share it to others.

Question 2

Why does the programme take so long?

Accepted Answer

True change, in terms of recovery and growth - is slow for humans.

For many of us, our past abusive experiences were not short.  Recovery from such an experience is not short either, it takes time.
The renurture programme can take anywhere from 6 months to a lifetime to complete - for most of us the journey to self-love is lifelong and requires us retaking parts of it over again as we meet new challenges.

That said, we can experience many positive gains as we progress.  It is a journey of discovery and change - the journey is truly as valuable as the destination.

This is why the course is delivered slowly and made flexible in its order as you unlock it  - so you can take as long as you need to and come back as often as you'd like.

Question 3

Why do I need to do it in the structured way?

Accepted Answer

renurture is a journey that is designed based on known Psychological principles.

It supports trauma recovery, addiction (trauma bonding), emotional regulation, emotional management, self-compassion and closure through to self-worth development.

It is informed by models of therapy including cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), compassionate mind, mindfulness, narrative therapy and addiction recovery models.

For all of this to feel impactful, a journey was created that brings what you need (from each theory or model) to you, as you need it.

It is important to realise - the journey feels like 1 direction, but we encourage you to go back as many times as you need.  The lessons become a resource / toolkit for you to return to as often as you'd like.

Question 4

How is this different to going to a counsellor or therapist?

Accepted Answer

For some people, a therapist is definitely what you need.  Especially if you have suffered severe trauma, feel suicidal and/or are struggling to engage in any type of recovery approach.

For many others, therapy does not feel right or is just not available.  You might not be severe enough in need to access therapy, you might not want to wait many months to get therapy and/or you may not be able to afford private therapy.

renurture is not an alternative to therapy, it is an alternative option for people who choose not to have therapy or don't need it - but do need something.

It is informed by the same approaches used by therapists - designed by a Clinical Psychologist.  But does not have a person listening, supporting and challenging you.  It does have different aspects though - it is private, flexible, easy to fit into life, taken at your own pace and very affordable.

If you are unsure and feel worried, speak to a professional - see our signposting page in the resource link at the top of our page.

renurture can be used alongside therapy, if you discuss it with your therapist and they agree.

Question 5

What if I don’t want to do the full programme, can I get refund?

Accepted Answer

Everyone has a 30 day money back guarantee available.

After which, we have designed the programme to take 6 to 12 months or beyond.

It is important to recognise that we expect you to take a while and we expect you to dip in and out.  Sometimes it will feel helpful and other times it may feel hard, and you may need a break.

Your access will stay open without restriction - and we know many people dip in and out of support, as their needs come and go.

The programme is not refundable after 30 days, as we are encouraging long-term use  - which we know is most effective.

Question 6

Why are you different to any other self-help programme?

Accepted Answer

renurture is different in its approach and scale.

The experience is akin to an e(self-help)workbook.  
A journey that is spoken to you by the founder, who talks about the recovery journey as one that you share with him and the others on the renurture programme.

It takes many months to complete and more to maintain, all of this is supported through spoken lessons and exercises designed to support you.

In the world of relationship trauma recovery, almost all programmes are short term (12 sessions max) and most are group work.  This programme is intentionally designed to fit into your life and to match your speed of recovery.

It is large in scale, being provided as 100s of micro sessions (15 mins or less) that support gradual but meaningful change.

It is also the only digital recovery programme (for the full journey) available.

Question 7

What if I’m seeing a counsellor or therapist?

Accepted Answer

Talk to your counsellor or therapist about renurture.

Some recommend it as a programme to enter after your therapy has ended and others are open to exploring it during therapy.

Take the advice of your therapist.

Question 8

I’m taking medication, is it OK to do this programme?

Accepted Answer

Talk to your prescriber (GP / Psychiatrist) if you have this concern.

renurture is not an alternative to medical care and if you are receiving medical help for your mental health, it is best to discuss the programme with it.

renurture will address big issues in your past life and some may find that they are not ready for this or need more support to face it.

There is no rush, renurture will be here when you are ready.

Question 9

I don’t want anyone to know that I have issues, how do I do the programme in secret?

Accepted Answer

renurture is delivered in short sessions (typically 15 mins or less)

You may be able to use a computer at work or a local library to access renurture, during breaks or short trips.

Remember to be careful on your own device if there is risk of being discovered.

If this risk exists, consider contacting one of the services listed here.(https://www.getoutgetlove.com/abuse-support-organisations)

Question 10

I’m worried about a friend, can I tell them about this programme?

Accepted Answer

We hear this a lot - and we've also known renurture to be gifted to friends or loved ones.

Gently point them to our site and suggest it may be useful.

Please be sure to do this safely if your friend is in a situation where looking at our site would be a risk to them.

Respect their choice - people often need time to realise their own recovery needs.  Pressure, despite feeling helpful, can turn people away.

Question 11

I don’t think I can afford to do this programme, is there a way to get it free or subsidised?

Accepted Answer

It is our deepest desire to keep the door open to those in most need:

We have reduced by 66% per year, to those who need financial support (paid as a low monthly fee).  Go to the Sign Up page and click the link above the programme options, to apply.

At the moment, we are not able to make it free due to our own costs - but it is our hope to reduce this price even further as time goes on.

Question 12

Most of the resources I've seen are for women, is this programme suitable for men or other sexes?

Accepted Answer

renurture was designed for all sexes, sexualities, ages and cultures.

The programme works on what is common across mixed groups - the needs we share to understand the past, to feel in control and to get freedom and love.

It is delivered in a way that embraces this shared journey and feels open and inviting to all.

Question 13

How do I end my subscription and/or leave renurture completely?

Accepted Answer

We've provided a how to guide here.(https://www.getoutgetlove.com/accounthelp)

Resources to help
at times of crisis and/or curiosity

Domestic Abuse Services

Suicidal / Self-Harm / Partner Risk

Articles for you

Free Compassion Prog

How to leave renurture

Frequently Asked Qs

Relationship Assessment

Meditations

Compassion Exercises

Maintenance Plan (renurture)

Digital Change Resources (For Services)

Frequently Asked Questions

What others are saying

Resources to help at times of crisis and/or curiosity